|Zimmerman portraying a ghost. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)|
There have been many things in my life that I've said or done that I wish that I hadn't or at least wish had been handled differently than they were handled at the time. I'm not a big believer in dwelling on regrets. What's done is done and if it can't be changed it's usually a waste of time dwelling upon it. On rare occasions we might be able to fix what we've damaged or at least say we're sorry for something that might have happened so long ago that most of those involved have stopped thinking about it. Still, we often have those ghostly nagging memories that keep coming back to haunt us.
Some of my ghosts come from childhood while others are more recent. I have no doubt that new missteps will arise to haunt me in the years to come. Like any of us, I am only human and prone to making mistakes that I'll wish I hadn't made. That's life for any of us. And as bad as our mistakes might be or seem to be, they can be valuable life lessons as well as subject matter for memoir that can help others learn from the mistakes we've made.
Besides being lessons from which to learn, in the end our mistakes should not be heavy burdens to shoulder, but part of the story line of who we are and the journey that we've traveled. Our mistakes should not define who we are unless we are among the unfortunate few who continually return and never learn from the things we do wrong. The story of this type of person is a sad one indeed and uplifts no one unless there comes a revelatory moment that results in a substantive change for the better and redemption at the end of the tale.
There are probably few who desire this transformative evolution from bad to good, inept to adept, or lost to found, though when it happens it can be a great story. The ghosts of past deeds will always be there to haunt us long after the occurrences. Our choice is whether we allow the ghosts of the past to haunt us into a dark place of retreat or to accept them, try to understand them, and hopefully learn from them.
Our memories are specters that we must find a way to live with and eventually at some point make peace with. Allowing bad memories to haunt us into a fear of living and a remorse for having lived achieves nothing positive for us. You and I all have ghosts of past memories and mistakes. Rather than becoming a slave to them, make them work for you. A haunted house can be scary while a haunted life is tragic.
What ghosts from your past haunt you? Are bad memories a bad thing? How do you turn the tide on personal negative thinking to make your past a positive?
Please visit Tossing It Out tomorrow for my next Battle of the Bands post. The song I'll be using relates to what I've discussed in today's Wrote By Rote post.